We wish everyone a wonderful pride week across the nation as we are still struggling for equal rights for all.  Gays, Lesbians, Transgendered, Bisexual, and the big hearted straight people joining us for the big parades across the nation all contribute to fabulous celebrations across the U.S.

From San Francisco to Oklahoma City to New York City to Houston we celebrate pride 2009.  Everyone have a safe weekend and make sure you drink the liquors that advertise in our parades and support our community whether it be a beer or a vodka.  Remember the banks and other organizations and busineses that take part in the gay pride festivals and parades and support them!!  Support your drag queens and bartenders too haha!

I have a sick feeling that the reports from TMZ and other sources that Michael Jackson has died in LA.  The reports are that he had quit breathing.  The Perez Hilton site is down today probably due to a surge in traffic that the web host could not hold up.  Our thoughts today are with Michael Jackson and his family and we hope he recovers and is ok.  He has a Summer and Fall tour planned for London this year and he has been rehearsing for this tour.

Steve Ruda told the newspaper Thursday that Jackson was not breathing when Los Angeles Fire Department paramedics responded to a call at his Los Angeles home about 12:30 p.m.

The paramedics performed CPR and took him to UCLA Medical Center, told the paper.

If you were like me you were glued to the TV like it was an American Idol Finale every night when this sitcom came on LOGO.  This was to see what these Texas country gals do next whether they shoot out of their trailers, protest a bar being open with religious signs, or eat lots of valium.  This show reminded me of many people who I have known in my life from small town America it shows your religious nuts, loving mothers, prescription drug-addictive temptations, and affairs. Most of all it was beginning to close out the season on Jason Dottley known as Ty at his mothers door just after she had flushed some valiums down the toilet.

Sordid Lives the TV show had the hottest of guys being Jason and his singing men chorus auditions when it broke to the Hollywood scene he was engaged in but then went back to Texas life to show his family and friends there.  Oh, and there is Leslie Jordon who plays Loretta Lynn or Brother Boy as they called him… the guy from Will and Grace.

The other great characters were Noleta Nethercott, Peggy Ingram (Rue McClanahan, Golden Girls), and I think my favorite was Beth Grant or Sissy Hickey.  I just loved Sissy’s bee-hive-ish hair.  But there was also the singing delight Bitsy Mae who we all know as Olivia Newton-John.  And we cannot forgot LaVonda and then there is Dr. Eve the doc trying to change the Sexual Preferences of Brother Boy.

So this about shows you a sum of some of the big name stars in this show not including the terriffic Del Shores who put all of this together.  But what is the catch? LOGO is claiming they will not bring back the show because of its costs blamed on the bad economy.  It may be too late to save the show from LOGO  carrying it but we could try.  There is currently a petition going on over at the petition site and a facebook page setup to save the show.

Here are some other options:
Email LOGO directly at- www.logoonline.com/about/contact.jhtml

Oh and while you are at it let’s make a petition for someone to bring back Queer As Folk.  That is my all time favorite show and I think its high time to have a revamped QAF every sunday night.  Both shows need to come back but Sordid Lives can be easier to bring back since its on a roll right now as a popular show and just need some action from us all.

The whole thing with Perez Hilton and Will.I.Am is such a mess and makes us all look horrible.  A little drama here and there is expected when you have big egos getting together whether it be inside a Church, Nightclub, business meeting, or a power struggle.  At first I saw Perez Hilton’s twitter and was on his side but then I started looking more into and thought why did he call someone a “faggot”.  It is unacceptable to use the f-word no matter how drunk you are when you are in public (or even private these days with video around) when you are fighting for gay rights.  It is as bad as the N word to the gay community and should not be used.

Del Shores the writer of Sordid Lives wrote on his facebook demanding that GLAAD take action and they finally did.  It is a sad situation when the gay community has to face off against each other because we are supposed to be a fabulous loving family.  Perez Hilton should apoligize to the entire gay community for his actions even though he was assulted.  The assult and violence brought on from Will.I.Am and Fergie’s band manager should be punished as well.  Violence is never the answer but words such as F-words should not be used either.

The TMZ video of this made my stomach hurt and I was shaking in disapointment that someone in our community would embarass us like this.  It is hard to stand by him but I think he will in time apoligize and clean things up… we should give him a chance to do better and all quit hating each other.  Hate and violence are what the religoius extremists do to each other and we certainly do not want to be one of those losers.

Del Shores (whom is also married to actor Jason Dottley) has also been commenting about the Dustin Lance Black pictures that were posted on Perez Hilton’s site and how that hurt the gay community.  Keep in mind this was only a week or so ago so there is even more bitterness towards Perez.  Although I will have to give Hilton credit that he took down the nude pics of Dustin Lance Black of Milk.

On a better note, Lady Gaga was amazing and sexy as can be gyrating like a hot stripper at the Much Music Awards.  Whether she is a man or a woman she is the hottest thing on the planet.  Her flaming boobs made Britney and the MTV Awards look like a Disney reject movie.  We love you Gaga and can’t wait to see what you do next.

Breaking from Perez Hilton’s celebrity site today are some highly steamy photos of Dustin Lance Black who were sold to the media.  It is sad that you cannot make a home video with your partner without having to worry about the media getting a hold of it and everyone starring at your private parts online.  But move over the Portland Mayor and his teenage boytoy Beau Breedlove – we now have a new scandal (that shouldn’t be a scandal).   Not that the Mayor of Portland dating a 18yr old adult should have been either.

I see if this “explodes” into something big it will be because people are jealous that the Oscar winning Milk writer is so hot in this video.  Hotter than most of the stars that are really supposed to be doing these types of videos.  I admit i will be the first to buy this video!

Of course we all know Dustin lance is gay but did we know he had sex too?  OMG really? haha.  People goto the bathroom as well.  This whole thing could end up being as silly as Adam Lambert coming out as Gay.   I just wonder how these things get “leaked” out or does Dustin Lance want us to know how big his pee pee is… Photo courtesy of Perez Hilton.com.

We are refusing to post any images or videos that were seen on the Perez Hilton site but it was hot to see.  We are a big fan of Dustin Lance Black and hope he continues to do well in his career.

While gay pride parades and similar events bring the entire GLBTQ community together, there are some events and activities particularly geared toward lesbian, bisexual or queer identified women. These range from socially active and politically motivated to opportunities for rest, play and relaxation. Your local Pride celebration probably offers activities and events planned specifically for women, but if you have the time and funds to travel or are located near one of these lesbian or lesbian inclusive events you may want to make it a “gay-cation” this year.

Dinah Shore Week in Palm Springs, California is the largest lesbian event in the country. Held in the spring (the 2010 dates are March 31 to April 4), Dinah Shore Week includes entertainment planned and organized by the well known L.A based GirlBar, pool parties, and plenty of time to socialize. Dinah Shore Week 2009 boasted an impressive line up of performers, including Macy Gray, Kat Deluna, Julie Goldman, and the Cliks. Reservations fill up quickly, so book by December if you want to stay in the Wyndham Hotel or Hotel Zoso.

Another major lesbian event each year is the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival. While controversy has surrounded the festival, it remains a popular destination for any woman looking to share and experience  a space designed just for her. The festival features intensive workshops of all sorts, performances, and a time to share in a unique space and experience. Moms should note that families with male children 5 and over will need to camp in Brother Sun and use the childcare available there as boys over 4 are not welcome on the festival grounds. This year’s Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival will take place from August 4th to 9th. Visit michfest.com for more information.

Gay Days Orlando has become a popular destination for both single and partnered members of the LGBTQ community. During this week, a number of events designated for Girls at Gay Days occur as well, making it a popular lesbian event destination. You can also take advantage of Gay Day Disney during this event. Comedians, concerts and plenty of dancing await lesbians of all ages at Girls at Gay Days. See girlsatgaydays.com for schedules for this year’s June party.

While not specifically a lesbian oriented event, if you are more concerned with the arts than with a party, consider making Homo A Go Go your event destination. This gay and lesbian oriented arts festival includes music, art, film, performance art and activism from August 13 to August 16, 2009 in San Francisco, California.

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Life insurance is especially important for gay and lesbian families, couples and individuals. Without federal marriage rights, social security cannot be paid to your partner or any children you are not legally connected to either by blood or adoption. Making sure you have adequate life insurance protection can make loss easier and provide valuable financial support for those you have left behind. How much life insurance you require may vary depending upon your lifestyle. If you are single, enough to cover your debts and pay for your funeral may be adequate. Couples may want to allow enough to provide the partner with financial stability for a period of time to allow for grieving and cover debts including a mortgage. Families with children should consider much larger policies, possibly enough to allow a parent to stay at home and cover educational and day care expenses.


Life insurance is typically quite non-discriminatory, with a few exceptions. No life insurance company asks about sexual orientation as a part of the application process, but they may ask about potential HIV risk, STDs and other health issues that can relate to everyone. That said, marital status can impact your overall risk factors and some insurers will treat partnered gay individuals as single. Ask your insurance agent about the specifics of their policies and the impact on the benefits and cost in your personal situation, as each company has its own policies. In states with gay marriage or civil unions, this may be less of an issue. You can assign anyone you like as your insurance beneficiary. Keep in mind that employer provided coverage may default to next of kin, and you might need to specify your partner as the recipient. Life insurance, outside of small, employer benefit programs, does typically require a physical examination, including blood testing. Certain medical conditions can make it more costly or difficult to qualify, and HIV positive status will typically lead to an immediate denial of coverage.

There are two specific types of life insurance. The first is universal life. This combines both a death benefit and a savings and investment account. The cash value may be withdrawn if desired. Monthly premiums will be the same throughout life; however, a higher percentage of the premium will go into savings while young than when older.  Term life is more common today, and is what we typically refer to when we talk about life insurance.  Premiums are lower when young and higher as age and risk of death increases. Cash value plans do offer some tax advantages over term life; but term life plans are ideal for most people.