Months and months have went by and my boyfriend just keeps getting more and more irritated with me for not having sex with him. It seems he is needing more of the reward from someone else than the actual love of a relationship. He won’t seek counseling though.

I feel we need to see a therapist and maybe see what the problem is but there are so many things that are so normal about us. He was raised in a way where he never had to cook or clean. He lives like a pig he never showers nor clean the floor. The room has more flies and fruit flies than I’ve ever seen.

We have no clean towels. No clean underwear. It is a chore to try to get him to was clothes or even get them ready to wash. Why is he like this? Literally everyone has to do these things.

He doesn’t drive and expects people to come pick me up where you have to drive one way there then another way back making it twice the time and gas as a ride if he learned to drive or even took the bus. Why is he above the bus?

I’m traumatized from our past fights where he grew more and more into trying to control me and watch over me like we were in some kind of high school relationship. I will never heal from how he chased me around a parking lot and he fell and hit his teeth breaking them after threatening to hit me in the face.

I love him like family but it seems it has come to an end. I can’t watch him get worse and worse drinking and going out every night thinking he is getting some kind of fake fame.

If he truly wanted to grow you would think he would try and move somewhere else or find other guys to date. I think we are at the end of the rope and as much as I love him I do not think this is going to work out.

I find myself not being lonely when I am alone but enjoying the time to myself. The time I spend with him isn’t really fun anyore it’s just him telling me a story he told me before and ill tell him a story I told him before. Nothing new is going on and it is just uninteresting.

I am not sure we can find any kind of spark again with this relationship. I wish him the best and I realize I am older and it will be hard for me to find someone else as he has told me but I am not so sure I want anyone but friends. Close friends have always been the best thing for me even though they are spread all over the place.

Update: I carried it on more months and now my best friend has passed away. He showed no remorse and had no empathy for me. He got on the phone with his Dad saying things to turn him against me. His father then threatened me over the phone. I had blood work that I had to do the next day at a cancer center so I left for the night. We still have a week left of rent together and I just do not know how to get away from this curse and evil being.