Coming Out As Straight

A mention of Cheryl B.’s forthcoming anthology Coming Out of the Closet Again: Queer Women on Loving Men got me looking around for any word on when it will be released. One thing I found during my unsuccessful search is an article, from 2001, titled “Coming out of the closet — to be straight” (only half of this piece is available to those who are not Salon.com Premium members).

Melissa Levine was 28 when she realized that she had no sexual interest in women (though she had exclusively dated them) and only wanted to be with men; that she was straight.

I love women; I connect with women. Three times in eight years, I have fallen in love with women — women I would have committed my life to, if I could have. And for me, this love translated into romance, and then into sex, though only briefly.

I wanted the lesbian life, complete with herbal tea, incestuous friendships and golden retrievers. I cherished the emotional intimacy and craved the freedom, power and joy of the queer community, which looked like home. But when I finally had that dream within my reach, I couldn’t do it. I was in love with my girlfriend, but I didn’t want to have sex with her.

I have no idea how difficult it is to come out as straight to those you’ve shared a lesbian life with. I do, however, remember the outrage, years ago, when I dated a trans guy for the first time. I was “working my way back.”

Do you know anyone who came out as straight? I’m wondering what their experience was like. I do believe that it’s probable you will lose people when you come out, as anything. The good thing is you’ll lose the right people.

If things get slow, grab a woman’s ass.

It’s a plan that’s working well for Penelope Cruz. Jeannette Walls reported, in yesterday’s Scoop:

Penelope Cruz claims she knows why those lesbian rumors refuse to die. The “Vanilla Sky” actress, who has long been the subject of speculation about her sexuality, says she helped keep them going.

Cruz has been friends with Salma Hayek since she came to the U.S. from Spain about seven years ago. There friendship started a buzz, which grew a lot louder when she groped her friend’s behind at a press conference while the two were promoting their film “Banditas.”

“I grabbed Salma’s ass just to keep things moving, because everyone was a little slow,” Cruz said while promoting her new film “Volver” reports Australia’s Courier Mail. “And, of course, the energy changed when I did that.”

Catholic Citizenship Leader Attacks Same-Sex Marriage Supporter

Larry Cirignano, the executive director of Catholic Citizenship, a Boston-based Catholic organization, has been charged with assaulting Sarah Loy, a same-sex marriage supporter who attended a rally against gay marriage in Worchester, Mass., organized by Catholic Citizenship and VoteOnMarriage, both anti-gay organizations.

Larry Cirignano, 50, Catholic Citizenship’s leader, led the crowd Saturday in the Pledge of Allegiance, then allegedly saw Loy and lunged at her, tackling her to the ground.

“You need to get out. You need to get out of here right now,” he threatened as he pushed her to the ground, her head slamming against the concrete sidewalk, according to the Worchester Telegram & Gazette.

…snip…

Tom Lang, a gay-marriage supporter in Loy’s group, commented on the aggressiveness of the alleged attack.

“What was so unusual and calculated about Larry Cirignano’s assault on Sarah Loy was that he left the podium area right after he gave his speech and pushed Sarah to the ground, then he returned back to the podium to stand next to Evelyn Reilly and Kris Mineau as they waited for Ambassador Flynn.”

“This was not your average ‘heated moment.’ This was a premeditated, aggressive and uncalled-for assault by the president of the Catholic Citizenship on a young lady who was exercising her right to assemble, protest and voice her free speech.”

Cirignano, of course, denies any wrongdoing:

In a statement e-mailed to reporters, Cirignano claimed he just “escorted the lady back into the crowd. . . . I never touched her shoulders and she apparently thought that she could draw a foul like it was a basketball game by falling down.

“Great theater, not Academy Award material,” he said.

More from Massachusetts: Republican Gov. Mitt Romney reaffirms his opposition to gay marriage

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Survey Shows Soldiers Oppose Banning Gays

Only 27 percent of the 545 soldiers who responded to a new Zogby poll agree that gays should not be allowed to join the military.

26 percent oppose the ban on gays in the military and an additional 47 percent are neutral on the policy.

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C. Dixon Osburn of the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, pushing to end the ban, called the poll, commissioned by the Michael D. Palm Center, “one more nail in the coffin of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” the 1993 compromise that allowed gay men and lesbians to serve, but not if they were in any way open about their sexuality.

Almost a quarter of those surveyed said that they were aware of someone lesbian or gay in their units.

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I’m open to suggestions.

Perez Hilton’s traffic quadrupled in one week. Why? Do you know? Anything to do with Britney “stuff?”

I’d settle for doubling my traffic in a month. But I’m just not willing to “share” in a Britney kinda way. Not on this website, anyway.

I’m kidding.

Maybe.

Gay Marriage Heads to Court Again in California

Setting aside the ruling of a Califonia appellate court stating “the state can stick to the traditional definition of marriage as long as it continues to grant substantially equal rights to same-sex couples who register as domestic partners,” California’s Supreme Court will decide if the state’s law defining marriage as the union of a man and a woman is unconstitutional.

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Corzine Signs NJ Civil Union Legislation

New Jersey Governor Jon S. Corzine has signed legislation that gives gay couples “adoption, inheritance, hospital visitation and medical decision-making rights and the right not to testify against a partner in state court.”

New Jersey gay couples have yet to be given the option of entering into a “marriage,” and are not entitled to the same benefits straight couples receive from the federal government. For example, they cannot collect deceased partners’ Social Security benefits.

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ROSIE v. DONALD, Round 1

Rosie, Yesterday, on The View:

Highlights from Donald’s talk with The Insider (H/T: Gothamist):

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Congratulations, Sally!

Sally Bellerose‘s “Breaking Vows” is the winner of the 2006 Rick DeMarini’s Short Story Award.

Congratulations, Sally! I’m so happy to hear the news.

‘Tis the season for… lawsuits.

Perez Hilton is being sued by X17 Inc. And, now, Rosie O’Donnell is being sued by Donald Trump.

“I’m gonna sue her and I look forward to it. She’s really very dangerous for the [The View].”

Being sued for what, you ask? We don’t really know the details yet. But according to Trump, Rosie knows exactly why he is filing suit.

“Rosie will find out what we’re suing her for. She knows what we’re suing her for,” he said adding the lawsuit is already in the works.

This morning, Rosie attacked Trump’s decision to allow Tara Conner to keep her Miss USA crown:

“Because his show ‘The Apprentice’ is starting again in January, he held a big press conference to see if he was going to allow Miss USA, such a prestigious title,” Rosie said on “The View” while rolling her eyes. “It’s basically a model competition … They have one question in Miss USA, yeah and they’re like ‘I’d like to cure cancer and end world hunger — and then I’d like to go to Studio 54 and do some crack.’”

Rosie continued her rant lashing out at Donald Trump’s decision to give Tara Conner a second chance. “There he is, hair looping, going everyone, everyone deserves a second chance,” she began. “He’s the moral authority? Left the first wife, had an affair, left the second wife, had an affair, had kids both times, but he’s the moral compass for twenty year olds in America. Donald, sit and spin, my friend.”

She also said she expected him to sue her but added “he’ll probably be bankrupt by that time so I won’t have to worry.”

If you’re behind on the Tara Conner story:

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