Comments on: Be Selfish. It’s Good for You. http://www.dailydoseofqueer.com/2006/01/20/be-selfish-its-good-for-you/ Wed, 01 Feb 2012 15:16:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: boiwondr76 http://www.dailydoseofqueer.com/2006/01/20/be-selfish-its-good-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1256 boiwondr76 Sat, 21 Jan 2006 04:27:46 +0000 http://www.dailydoseofqueer.com/?p=918#comment-1256 I guess we are playing around with semantics, which usually doesn't like to play fair with the gray matter of life. But really, the way I see it, altruism does have a dash of the self-first concept in it, just as Jami mentioned in her last sentence. Without it, altruism would fall face first, much like bread without yeast. Wait, I've never cooked bread in my life. What am I talking about? Anyhoo, what I think Paula was describing is not actually selfishness...just the dash of self-first in altruism. Pure selfishness is generaly a lonely place. I guess we are playing around with semantics, which usually doesn’t like to play fair with the gray matter of life. But really, the way I see it, altruism does have a dash of the self-first concept in it, just as Jami mentioned in her last sentence. Without it, altruism would fall face first, much like bread without yeast. Wait, I’ve never cooked bread in my life. What am I talking about?

Anyhoo, what I think Paula was describing is not actually selfishness…just the dash of self-first in altruism. Pure selfishness is generaly a lonely place.

]]> By: Jami http://www.dailydoseofqueer.com/2006/01/20/be-selfish-its-good-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-1247 Jami Fri, 20 Jan 2006 15:19:51 +0000 http://www.dailydoseofqueer.com/?p=918#comment-1247 I'm in full agreement with Paula on this! Her definition of selfish does not include the standard "at the expense of others" qualifier. I tend to call that type of 'selfishness', wholeness because it implies a complete person and it doesn't have the negative connotations. But that's semantics. She wrote: <em>"Putting on your oxygen mask and making sure you are OK before you try to help others. "</em> That's it in a nutshell for me: if you're not OK, you can't help others who aren't OK. And if you don't have confidence in yourself and like yourself, it's highly likely that no one else will, either. I’m in full agreement with Paula on this! Her definition of selfish does not include the standard “at the expense of others” qualifier. I tend to call that type of ‘selfishness’, wholeness because it implies a complete person and it doesn’t have the negative connotations. But that’s semantics. She wrote: “Putting on your oxygen mask and making sure you are OK before you try to help others. “ That’s it in a nutshell for me: if you’re not OK, you can’t help others who aren’t OK. And if you don’t have confidence in yourself and like yourself, it’s highly likely that no one else will, either.

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